Tag: mental health
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Embracing Growth: Focusing on What You Gained, Not What You Lost
In life, we all face adversity in one form or another—whether it’s a personal loss, a career setback, or a challenging relationship. During tough times, it’s easy to become fixated on what we’ve lost: a job, a loved one, a dream, or even our sense of self. But what if we chose to focus on…
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Healing from Gaslighting: Key Steps for Recovery
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where the perpetrator seeks to make the victim doubt their perceptions, memories, and sanity. Whether experienced in personal relationships, at work, or within the family, it can leave deep emotional scars. Healing from gaslighting is essential to reclaim your sense of self and regain control over your life.…
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When Exploding Feels Like the Only Way to Be Heard: Reactive Abuse and Deaf Experiences
By Joy Plote, Coda Counselor | The Space Between Most people think abuse looks like yelling, hitting, or cruel words. But what happens when someone stays quiet for years… until one day, they finally explode? In the Deaf community, that explosion is often misunderstood. What if the person being labeled as “abusive” is actually reacting…
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Taking the Wheel: Understanding Locus of Control in Healing and Growth
What do you believe drives the course of your life? Is it your effort and decisions — or is it luck, fate, or what others do to you? This belief is called locus of control, and it has a powerful impact on how we heal, grow, and show up in the world. So, what is…
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What is a Trauma Bond?
Trauma bonding refers to the intense emotional connection that develops between an individual and someone who is abusive, exploitative, or manipulative. These bonds are often created and reinforced through cycles of abuse, where moments of harm are interspersed with periods of kindness, affection, or remorse. This pattern creates confusion and a deep attachment to the…
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Internal Family Systems (IFS): Understanding and Healing Your Inner Parts
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a transformational therapy model developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz that views the mind as a system of different “parts” that interact within us, much like members of a family. Instead of seeing ourselves as a single, unified self, IFS helps us understand that we are made up of multiple parts—each…
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Understanding Dialectics: Embracing Opposing Truths for Growth
Dialectics is a way of thinking that embraces contradictions and acknowledges that two opposing ideas can both be true at the same time. Rather than viewing things in black-and-white terms, dialectical thinking helps us hold multiple perspectives, accept complexity, and find balance in difficult situations. Dialectics is a core concept in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)…
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The Power of Validation: How to Strengthen Relationships Through Emotional Understanding
In any relationship—whether with a partner, child, friend, or colleague—one of the most powerful ways to foster trust and connection is through validation. Validation means recognizing and affirming another person’s emotional experience, helping them feel seen, heard, and understood. Unfortunately, many people were not taught how to validate emotions. Instead, the instinct is to fix,…
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Emotional Regulation for Parents: How to Break the Cycle and Create a Stable Home
Parenting is one of the most challenging and emotionally demanding roles a person can take on. When a parent struggles with emotional dysregulation, it can lead to inconsistent responses, unpredictable reactions, and difficulty providing a sense of safety for their child. The good news? Emotional regulation is a skill that can be learned, practiced, and…
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Supporting a Deaf Person Through Complex Trauma and PTSD
Supporting a Deaf loved one through Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) requires patience, understanding, and a trauma-informed approach that considers both their unique communication needs and the complexities of their experiences. PTSD and C-PTSD affect not only memory and perception but also emotional regulation and interpersonal relationships. For Deaf individuals, trauma can…
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