Tag: health
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Cognitive Distortions and Trauma: When Your Brain Lies to Protect You
You’re Not Broken—You’re Wired for Survival If you’ve lived through trauma, you’ve probably found yourself wondering, “Why do I always think the worst?”, “Why can’t I believe good things about myself?”, or “Why do I blame myself for everything?” The answer often lies in something called cognitive distortions—automatic, distorted ways of thinking that helped you…
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When Exploding Feels Like the Only Way to Be Heard: Reactive Abuse and Deaf Experiences
By Joy Plote, Coda Counselor | The Space Between Most people think abuse looks like yelling, hitting, or cruel words. But what happens when someone stays quiet for years… until one day, they finally explode? In the Deaf community, that explosion is often misunderstood. What if the person being labeled as “abusive” is actually reacting…
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Taking the Wheel: Understanding Locus of Control in Healing and Growth
What do you believe drives the course of your life? Is it your effort and decisions — or is it luck, fate, or what others do to you? This belief is called locus of control, and it has a powerful impact on how we heal, grow, and show up in the world. So, what is…
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Emotional Regulation for Parents: How to Break the Cycle and Create a Stable Home
Parenting is one of the most challenging and emotionally demanding roles a person can take on. When a parent struggles with emotional dysregulation, it can lead to inconsistent responses, unpredictable reactions, and difficulty providing a sense of safety for their child. The good news? Emotional regulation is a skill that can be learned, practiced, and…
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The Real Barriers of Deafness: Society’s Role in Creating Exclusion and Inequality
The social model of disability, developed in response to the medical model, argues that disability is not an inherent attribute of an individual but a result of the interaction between individuals and an environment that does not accommodate their needs. For Deaf individuals, this means their suffering often arises not from their deafness but from…
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Addressing Executive Dysfunction as a Coda: A Possible Therapeutic Strategy
Not all Codas (Children of Deaf Adults) are the same or share the same experiences. Some Codas may experience executive dysfunction and this can significantly impact Codas in unique ways due to their bimodal bilingualism, early responsibilities, and often complex, trauma-influenced backgrounds. Here’s a closer look at how executive dysfunction may show up for Codas…
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