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Cognitive Distortions: What They Are and How They Affect Thinking
Cognitive distortions are biased or irrational thought patterns that negatively influence how we perceive ourselves, others, and the world. They are often automatic and can reinforce negative emotions, anxiety, depression, and unhelpful behaviors. These distortions act as mental filters that twist reality, making situations seem worse than they are. Recognizing and challenging them is key…
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The Power of Validation: How to Strengthen Relationships Through Emotional Understanding
In any relationship—whether with a partner, child, friend, or colleague—one of the most powerful ways to foster trust and connection is through validation. Validation means recognizing and affirming another person’s emotional experience, helping them feel seen, heard, and understood. Unfortunately, many people were not taught how to validate emotions. Instead, the instinct is to fix,…
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Brainspotting: Unlocking Trauma Through the Power of the Mind-Body Connection
Brainspotting, a therapeutic approach developed by Dr. David Grand, is revolutionizing the way trauma, emotional pain, and psychological issues are processed. Rooted in neuroscience, Brainspotting focuses on identifying and working with “brainspots,” specific eye positions that correlate with unresolved trauma or emotional experiences. By targeting these brainspots, this therapy allows individuals to process and release…
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Persistent Demand for Autonomy: The Other Side of Demand Avoidance
Persistent Demand for Autonomy: The Other Side of Demand Avoidance When discussing Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or general demand avoidance, the focus is often on resistance to demands. However, the other side of this equation—the persistent demand for autonomy—is just as important to understand. For individuals with PDA, autonomy isn’t just preferred—it is essential for…
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Receptive Bilingualism: A Different Kind of Understanding
Language is at the heart of identity, connection, and culture. For many in the Deaf community and Codas (Children of Deaf Adults), bilingualism is a natural part of life, often encompassing a signed language like American Sign Language (ASL) and a spoken or written language such as English. However, not all individuals who grow up…
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Parentification: The Hidden Struggle for Codas
In the ideal family dynamic, parents nurture and children thrive. However, for many Children of Deaf Adults (Codas), the family structure takes on a different shape. Codas often find themselves navigating adult responsibilities at an early age, a phenomenon known as parentification. While some may adapt to these roles temporarily, others face long-term emotional and…
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What Australia’s Reports Reveal About Abuse in the Deaf Community
Australia’s Royal Commission into Violence, Abuse, Neglect, and Exploitation of People with Disability sheds light on a deeply troubling reality: Deaf individuals face disproportionately high rates of abuse, neglect, and exploitation. This March 2021 report, prepared by the Centre of Research Excellence in Disability and Health, offers a sobering insight into the challenges Deaf individuals…
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The Coda Identity: Bridging Two Worlds and Creating a Legacy
The Coda identity is a complex and unique experience rooted in the intersection of Deaf and hearing worlds. Codas (Children of Deaf Adults) grow up navigating two distinct cultural and linguistic environments, often becoming language brokers/interpreters, cultural mediators, and advocates at an early age. This unique role shapes their sense of self, worldview, and interpersonal…
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Brainspotting: A Powerful Therapy Option for Deaf Individuals
Brainspotting, a powerful trauma therapy, has proven especially effective for Deaf individuals, offering a unique, visual, and sensory-based approach to healing. Unlike many talk therapies, Brainspotting doesn’t rely heavily on verbal processing, making it an accessible and empowering option for Deaf clients. Here’s why Brainspotting works so well for Deaf individuals and how it aligns…
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Welcome to the Space Between: A Journey of Advocacy, Healing, and Education
Hello and welcome to the Space Between! I’m excited to introduce myself and share a little about who I am, the work I do, and my mission to create meaningful change for Deaf individuals, Codas, and the broader community. My name is Joy Plote, and I’m a licensed counselor and a proud Coda (Child of…
the Coda Counselor 